How Do You Cope? | A Basketball Story
How do you cope?
When your beautiful, talented, driven daughter decides it’s time to end her eight-year basketball career, how do you cope as a parent? How do you come terms that your life will no longer consist of sitting in the stands cheering on #24? How do you move on from a sport that consumed so much of your time? You start by loving your daughter first and supporting her decision. Then you start by taking a stroll down memory lane. You pull out the pictures and the videos of her first game – where she spent more time double dribbling than dribbling. Where she shot and missed more than she shot and made it. Then you move on to the next season where you could see her making progress and actually doing layups. Then the next season where she could dribble with both hands, run a screen and shoot 3 pointers. You continue through her career where she was the MVP for her Senior Year and signed her letter of intent to play Basketball at Faulkner University. Then you end with her playing her last collegiate game and dreaming with her on how she is going to focus on her studies so that she can become a difference maker. That she is determined to become a high school science teacher and coach basketball for girls that have the same desire as she did eight years ago. You focus on the fact that as a parent, you did everything right. You supported her, you loved on her, you nursed her wounds, you pushed her out of her comfort zone, you made her stronger. You made her realize that basketball is so much more than a sport you play on the court - that being an athlete is about your integrity, never giving up, being a team player, and always, always giving 110%.
How do you cope as a parent? You start by making a 12x12 digital album of all these precious memories - from the first game to the last and every moment in between. You tell your daughter how proud you are of her. You let her know that while her skills may have been lacking in the beginning, her desire and determination to learn and grow were always there. You build her up. You let her know that you love her and you can’t wait to cheer on “her girls” when she becomes a difference maker. That’s how you cope.